Thread: My very first....uh..."admirer"

Originally Posted by zumarrad

I've known too many Sensitive New Age Guys who are the most controlling mofos you're ever likely to meet. They disguise it in yoga and "worship",till you start showing evidence of being "uptight" because you don't automatically want to share your goddesshood with them.

There's a guy I've met at a couple of events here that matches this description to a T. The minute he meets you, he wants to know all sorts of details so he can "create a personal astrological chart" for you. He got really shirty with me when I told him I don't share specific personal information about myself with strangers.

Originally Posted by zumarrad

I think that second guy thought that you'd be providing a Very Special Service for the 14 year old. Ahem.

In total agreement.

On a slightly related note, I was hired to do a BellyGram at a double celebration for the birthdays of a 60 year old man and a 15 year old boy. The 15 year old was mortified and would barely even look at me, so I just focused my attention on the other GOH and the party guests. Every once in a while, the boy's mother would point at the kid as if to say "go dance by him!", and I just played it like I wasn't seeing/understanding the gesture. I'm there to make people happy, not uncomfortable or embarassed.

I think he's a scary or a prankster.

You know why? If he really was that 'sensitive' and 'caring' he'd have introduced himself in a more open and expressive way than an e-mail. Such as introducing himself at a show with flowers or something.

Either way he seems to have created some sort of fantasy about you.

I generally do not reply to such e-mails or if I do I mostly have some sort of generic reply like "Thank you for your feedback, <so and so> School of Middle Eastern Dance appreciates and values your opinion"

I wouldn't mind if he'd come up and introduced himself as a fan but to watch from afar and then send something as impersonal as an e-mail.....something isn't right.

I also find his overly-dramatic wording to be a huge red flag. The normal procedure is to talk a few times, go out a few times, THEN profess the undying love. This guy's backwards approach and instant "connection" seem to hint at a little "unbalance."

I think it's better not to answer stuff like this. Just pretend you didn't get it.