Quitting so lots up for grabs

lizajuk · 02-25-2008, 03:46 AM

Dear Bhuzzers. have decided to give up teaching and dancing belly dance so lots of goodies. Here is the first:
A beautifully made ShimmshopUK 2 peice in black and black lace with diamante stars . Comes with 2 pairs of gauntlets. One with decorative stars and the other black lace and a silver veil. £100 plus postage
Will fit UK size 14/16 and height around 5'6"2.More details on request.
http://www.bhuz.com/index.php?cmd=/p.../name_lizajuk/

Bellydancingcaroline · 02-25-2008, 04:01 AM

Why are you giving up ! ? What will you do ? Where will you go ? (read last part in style of scarlett o'hara).

deelybopper · 02-25-2008, 04:17 AM

Whaaaaat? Why?

ouroboros · 02-25-2008, 04:17 AM

WHAAAT???

Why are you giving it up?????

nikkiraqs · 02-25-2008, 04:40 AM

Aye do what Liz? I don't think I heard right!

Lisa Michelle · 02-25-2008, 05:03 AM

So sorry to hear you are quitting. We will miss you here on Bhuz.

Lisa

lizajuk · 02-25-2008, 05:24 AM

I am in therapy..... feeling old, crap, having reality checks..being counselled..if you count being shouted at as counselling....maybe only caffeine will help.....

deelybopper · 02-25-2008, 05:37 AM

Liz - please don't feel old and crap. You are one of the most dynamic people I've ever met - you're a fantastic dancer - you're gorgeous. You're a fantastic magazine editor!!! Don't let the counsellor/shouty person persuade you otherwise. You have so much to offer! (Grap a cup of coffee and have a rethink!)

Rosette · 02-25-2008, 05:52 AM

I . . .uh . . . actually don't count being shouted at as therapy.
I am feeling old and crap too. Having the worst time physically with menopause of anybody I ever even heard of, and it has interfered plenty with my dancing, but I AM NOT QUITTING, HELL NO, DAMMIT! (speaking of shouting) Oh dear; if you really do want to sell that costume, might have to post without the quitting part, which seems to be getting in the way! Seriously, no matter what you do, I hope you'll feel much better soon.

Rosette

Michelle75 · 02-25-2008, 07:01 AM

well, how about coming back after therapy?

sagira · 02-25-2008, 07:13 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lizajuk

I am in therapy..... feeling old, crap, having reality checks..being counselled..if you count being shouted at as counselling....maybe only caffeine will help.....

Good heavens! For starters you need to change counsellor's, what a horrid person!

Feeling old & crap, well I also feel old & crap sometimes, and have dark thoughts about giving up, then I stop and think, how much older and worse I would feel without dance in my life.

Don't give up,

maybe take time out for a short while or cut back a bit and see how you feel.

You poor thing, it is really such a downer to feel so bad

Do take a little more time to think

But I am sending you a big hug

Souzan · 02-25-2008, 07:21 AM

This can't be the same Liz who was counseling me not to sell myself short and to work for those jobs that need a woman of mature beauty. You obviously love this!! What does your husband say (or is he the one doing the shouting?_

Souzan

kina · 02-25-2008, 07:26 AM

what! No! don't you know that you're one of the people who give the rest of us hope? why would we continue if we thought we'd have to give up due to age? I love seeing your posts, reading about your adventures and looking at your lovely pictures.

which won't stop me from shopping ofcourse, but hopefully you'll get yourself another lovely Eman to perk yourself up!

Pheraea · 02-25-2008, 08:03 AM

I started when I was 40, and my amazing teacher and mentor is in her 60's!!!This is an ageless dance, a beautiful dance for all women of all ages. When I expressed my fears about being too old to even start, she told me she started at 40 as well. And she has had an amazing performance, teaching and troupe direction career, all begining at 40! Age does not seem matter when you start or when you decide to end, I would not let that be the reason to stop....... Your pic is beautiful :)

Lauren_ · 02-25-2008, 08:15 AM

Whaaaaaat???? NOOOOOOO!!!

Good counselors never, ever shout at people. Many counselors are quite insane. I think you should KEEP dancing, for now, and look for another counselor.

Iceland · 02-25-2008, 08:19 AM

We love you Liz!!!
the world need people like you to give us hope and beauty.
This is just a bad wave that comes and go...
Come to visit me here in Iceland, I will take you to many beautiful places. And you will feel soooo good and happy

We are sooo close to each other, come!!

ShimmyCayte · 02-25-2008, 08:32 AM

So sorry to hear you're feeling so bad Liz. You are one of the shining lights at our haflas - a real inspiration to us. We are going to miss you so much if you really do go

And NADA just won't be the same without you. Good luck and love whatever you decide.

Sadly there's no way your beautiful costume would stretch over my rear end!

tahiradancer · 02-25-2008, 09:11 AM

I agree. Find a new head shrinker. If you need help finding one who is hunmanistic, let me know.

You are a wonderful dancer, a joy to watch and very generous with your skills and knowledge. And darn fun on the dance floor!

Don't make me come drag you out in June!

{{{HUGS}}}

naiyahayal · 02-25-2008, 09:28 AM

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, DON'T LEAVE! When I joined Bhuz not so very long ago, I always looked for your posts and was inspired. Your humor helped me take myself less seriously---and I remember in particular one very lovely picture of you dancing that you posted -- there was so much joy and obvious connection to the music -- if you can convey that in one little picture posted on Bhuz, I can only imagine how lovely your dancing is in person. I had a so-called therapist once reprimand me when I was feeling unable to "follow his directions," he said, "You can't just stare at your belly button for the rest of your life.." Outrageous. I paid a lot of $$ to hear that ******. I quit, accepted myself (more or less) and returned to dance. It saved my life.....literally, I believe. You NEVER NEVER know how you unknowingly can help someone. PLEASE don't quit. You are much too valuable to the dance community, on or off of Bhuz....Lots of hugs, TanyaSF

zorba · 02-25-2008, 09:49 AM

No quit. Quitting isn't allowed.

I have no idea how old you are Liz, but for myself, I'll watch an older dancer ANY DAY over a younger one - that whole "life experience" thing, the beauty just flows...

anala · 02-25-2008, 10:07 AM

Have you looked at your gallery today? Well I just did...
what I saw there was a lifestyle, not a just a hobby. This comes as such a shock...no rumblings, no warnings of discontent. That leaves us all wondering if this is a momentary reaction to something really bad that just happened to you. What could possibly be the downside of continuing to dance? Health, joy, friendship...please..dont be so depressed that you deprive yourself of a means of being well and whole.

azahara · 02-25-2008, 10:11 AM

NO NO NO You will not . Take a break and recharge your passion for dance .
Dance is what keeps us young , what will you do to keep your mind and body in shape?
I do not teach it takes to much from me . So maybe you just stop teaching for a while and see if that helps. As for feeling old we all have a time in life that we have to fight to keep doing what we want , due to other peoples hang ups about what is age appropriate . Fight for your right to do what makes you happy at any age.

Bellydancingcaroline · 02-25-2008, 10:24 AM

It sounds like you need another therapist. Why would a therapist tell you to give up something that gives you so much joy? Plus, shout at you - that's inexcusable. I suppose there are people who are bad at their jobs in every line. I think therapy isn't all it's cracked up to be. Maybe the therapist has their own value judgements on the dance and what it is.

<vulture on> Plus, I want your eman <vulture off>

Quitting so lots up for grabs

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